We wake up to the sound of raindrops on the roof. Feeling snug as bugs in our beds. Your nose feels cold air above the bed covers. Coming down from the top bunk in the van, to the small floor space where we dress quick .while doing so with a nip in the air, we become like little dragons with our breath. Steaming mint tea outside while I have a plod around. Taking in nature and judging what kind of day it will become.

This gold mine belongs to the National Trust. Very interesting and really informative trip. Went into a mine first mined by the Romans, Victorian s and later Edwardians then finally closed in the 1930s. We learnt that the Romans were superior to the Victorians when mining for gold. Our guide was so polite and really involved our son in the questions and interactive part of the tour. He was the only child in this group and he gained a lot from it.

Ok, so we’ve had a few trips this year already to see if we like Wales. The answer is yes we do, we have some concerns about finding a property a bit like looking for a needle in a Haystack! we will see how it goes. Nice 2am start for our journey in Matilda our trusty van. So we’ve some dreams of becoming more self-sufficient. I’ve every faith its physically and mentally possible. After at least 12 months looking we may have found our first affordable place with land 3 acres! A very run down Tin hut almost shed-like, but LAND. Could we repair or renovate on looking sadly no to costly? What a disastrous outcome driveway impossible for car access Tin – Hut house total reck and to top it of neighbours had a dog sanctuary which is really lovely and kind work. However, doesn’t fit into my goal of finding a more calm environment all you could hear was yapping dogs. So much for finding calm peaceful countryside. Came away very deflated sorry to say had to reach for 2 biscuits as comfort. Always find the positive, lovely walk up to castle ruins of Dryslwyn. Found a bit of free overnight camping rarity made us happy. Beautiful area trees and all the colours of Autumn. A good night’s sleep for all and early morning bird song.

After 40 something years in Sussex.

We are leaving for Wales or somewhere else in the world time will tell. Where we hope to live a mortgage and debt-free life. What hope, can it be achieved?

One which is even more simple, hopefully, more self-sufficient and less crowded. Then aspire to find more calmness, better health, and more friendships along the way.

Fingers crossed.

That we will achieve some of these qualities in our lives as we only get one shot at it.

Hubby started his sabbatical.

We are on the way to Wales

The house is basically sold but we still waiting for slow solicitors to give a final moving date. Therefore don’t wish to waste sabbatical time, so a trip house hunting in our van. Then a final trip to Sussex one more time in a few weeks time to pack final bits before we leave for good.

New life and adventures start.

NOW.

We had over some years become uncomfortable, deeply affected and made sad. To the point that the hurt and sadness was to much for us all.

By the ways, some people had treated me and my family. We felt we had no one and there was no support structure . Yes, we were a husband and wife who always supported one another. However we as a family had no kind of help if we needed a helping hand, or had an emergency of any kind.

We knew hardly anyone in our town and no neighbours no community what so ever.

No other humans for any emotional supporting conversations, or someone else we could rely upon.

The only people we spoke with were each other or work colleagues or the lady on the till in the supermarket! That’s if she still had her job next week and had not been replaced by a scanning till 🤔🤔.

The world and people around seemed totally within themselves and withdrawn from us.

We had tried to involve others but it was like banging your head on a brick wall. No one was interested or had any time to spare.

After a long period of time living in this way, it’s sad but we cannot change the fact that people are more interested in their own lives and very separated from others.

The neighbours only spoke to others when angry or about overcrowded parking in the streets or glared then swore at one another!

It was not the environment we did not  wished to bring our boy up in.

A place which was very inward unfriendly and with low morals.

So we would seek a new life and leave our country.

We needed to give it ago and leave.

To find others who would spend time with us and our son and hopefully impact his life in lots of positive ways.

A board range of adults with different backgrounds expands a child’s knowledge and they gain a balanced view of the world around them when this is in their lives.

I see this missing in a lot of children these days, I think this is one of the reasons .I always liked India due to the fact extended families all lived together. Children grew up with grandparents ,aunts ,uncles and their brothers and sisters.

I grew up a single child and I know not having aunts ,uncles for that bit of extra help did effect me.

Seems that financial wealth out weighs the need for family time these days. well that s what I seem to witness around me and others have told me stories to this effect.

Wealth is just measured by income and your job title ONLY !! What about the wealth of character, soul, one’s family, and the environment you spend your time in.

Is this not also a wealth??

(some people are so rich they are poor!!)🤔🤔. They experience only what money can give them.

Money should not be the only aim in one’s life surely??

Governments have us dependently chained to a cycle of earning nothing more a vicious trap.

It’s a way to keep us in line and keep us(( passive)) if we are all in debt and dependent on a cycle of earning.

I see it clearly.

Wealth is love, time, people and time out in the natural world. which the creator made so amazingly.

Of course for a very long time, we were following the standard expected route of life. In South East England.

We knew no different  then.

Hubby doing an honest full-time job on just over minimum salary. Myself student host mum. Income the same as 3 full days work per week. On minimum wage for 9 to 10 months of the year. A crazy system. when after paying your mortgage and rip off!!! Council tax that’s just 2 bills you are left with just 35 per cent of your joint monthly income to pay all other bills.

Like water, electricity, heating that’s a joke what s that?? Car bills and repairs, petrol to go to work insurances for car and house and finally food! Umm, no one who works should be left with only (35 per cent) of their income to pay all the bills after just paying 2 standard bills.

Hubby’s fitted second-hand kitchen, bathroom, pallet fences, repaired washing machines, cookers, and repaired cars. He’s better at sewing than me for repairs of clothes and socks.

I’ve home-cooked with cheap foods reduced items turned into soups and veg curries.

We’ve foraged for foods on the roadside apples and wild plums and had a years supply of blackberry jams.I’ve answered adds in freegle to pick apples and gooseberries in people’s gardens as the owners couldn’t be bothered to pick them. Then I had a freezer of free fruit. We’ve grown veg as much as we could fit into a postage-stamp-sized garden.

Our clothes have come from freecycle ,charity shops, eBay, jumble sales and passed on second hand from kind mother friends for my son’s clothes from time to time.

My house regarding furniture and a lot of appliances have come from freecycle, Facebook selling pages or we’ve even recycled items from the local dump.

We’ve functioned like this for the past 15 years and it normal to us.

We’ve gone around in circles about the UK not financially being viable for our future. fulltime work is becoming a joke with employers offering 0 hours and part-time only. My husband most likely would have had work made 2 days a week. That’s how you get treated after working full time for 23 years for a company in the UK. In Jan 2019 we saw this happening to people we knew. Adults age 40 or 50 with families of their own moving in with other family members to save themselves from homelessness. One cannot live with the consent stress and uncertainty of losing your work or trying to find more hours when you have a house it’s not possible you just become sick. People cannot pay off a mortgage if theirs no job secured for them. Example hubby and I would need to work full time, but Where’s the full-time job and there’s not going to be one in 25 years from now. We would need to do this until age 75 to pay our mortgage off to be able to stay in UK it’s not possible. Then what kind of retirement???? If you make it to 75. I don’t think so. my hubby has 2 knee replacement s already and to do physical work full time for 25 years more.

Was I not put on earth for something more than that. Of course, I was!

So after years of following my brain and what my head told me and getting nowhere.

I yes heard a voice clearly tell me.

Listen to your heart your soul and have faith step out you will be fine just trust.

So we did 😊😊.

when you decide the route for your family to travel along and try a different way of life you step outside societies bubble.

You do this because the current system is not working !!

Those living it on daily basics now today. can clearly see it’s falling apart and not working for thousands. The next generation doesn’t have a hope and they can clearly see it, result now today is a divided society of anger, violence, mental health, and suicide ever on the increase. There’s no getting away from it. I’ve seen and lived it. All around me people feel despair and are made to feel worthless, hope has gone. The disparity between rich and poor should never be allowed.

It’s better to remove yourself from the system and society once you have experienced that life. Risk going it alone you don’t have much more to be taken from you anyway. The homes are unaffordable, incomes vanishing, violence, mental health and people feeling suicidal is more commonplace than you think!!

After living my whole life in England yes its daunting and nerve-racking, its got to the point I feel I’ve no other option it’s not the country we grew up in.

The prospect of leaving my home starting again and trying to make security for us and my son in a new country is unsettling because if it doesn’t work we cannot return to the UK  .

Times of security has gone and social unrest has replaced it.

Mainly Because The Rich Have Trodden the workers so far into the ground.

Most people are just a number on an employment spreadsheet.

No golden handshake or work pension those days are gone. These are the days when you see 75-year-olds working as they cannot afford to stop.

Life should not be and isn’t one path that fits all which we are all blindly following.

A tree has many branches, life should have many roads, why should we all be sheep, some of us should stand up and step out.

If I choose to step out that bubble that government and society have made.

Don’t give me criticism and judge how I choose to be, it’s hard enough that the big wigs and rich one per cent have tried to squash good normal folk like us!!!

I have no choice but to brave it and stand alone, sell my home before we lose it, get rid of a lot of our belonging s, give in your notice to our jobs, leave our country and everything I’ve know for the whole of my life.

While doing this knowing that if, I cannot make it work. I can never come back to where I grew up and spent over 40 years of my life because we could never get on the house ladder again in uk.

So the house finally goes up for sale !

Start again with my family, hubby and son who thankfully love me dearly.

I go in faith because, that’s what I have and will hold it close. It will not leave my side. It is my comfort and strength my determination comes from above.

All on faith!!!! and trusting that God will provide in the end.

I will trust and trust its simple

Because we want a happy, safe child who has food and a roof.

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of society follow a path all their lives that’s driven by a need to conform without question!! Gain wealth due to debt and ignore our environment and others! Mainly because as individuals

They are so mixed up with the one path fits all existing game.

Its doesn’t have to be that way wake up.

However more importantly the fact. That technology is reducing job s of the future. Most jobs are part-time even now.

Global warming and our child’s future? Is that not more important than making money? If the world our planet cannot function it will die.

Will we be taking our money to heaven NO.

My child and planet mean more to me than money.

What to do now? I know I cannot afford to listen to those who judge and doubt my capabilities.

Or why I am doing something different, how dare I!!!

A very very few have not understood, but a lot more people have totally praised and admired us for selling our home, selling and giving a lot of our belongings away to others who needed them, quitting the standard employment, and being nomadic until the time is right to find a fixed abode and be more in control and self sufficient as much as is possible.

Written 2 days before yet another birthday!!!

I’ve seen a lot my age sadly pass on and go 😭.

I myself have autoimmune diseases which effect my body and make things all that bit harder.

I also had a terrible experience in hospital where I pasted way for some time, due to miscarriage but luckily an emergency operation got me back into this world and home to my son.

It’s also sad that you can experience a loss of a baby and near death yourself.

Then the fact your shown the door from a hospital 24hours later and within a few days your back working!

Due to the fact we all need income to pay for our walls.

No follow up medical appointments to check your health or your state of mind.

No support system to be seen, you passed away yourself and lost your child and 24 hours later your thrown back into a system alone.

Not one visit or conversation so of course I’m mentally exhausted.

Returning home now to look after my son, husband who’s stuck in bed and in pain due to a knee replacement operation. Hard going or what!

But your still in the world 🤔so!

To be given the opportunity of a second go here shows me how precious time is and how I should use my own energy and time.

So I m thankfully for every day I spend with my boy and husband. I don’t just count the years. I count each sunrise and smile to be with them another day is wonderful.

We follow our hearts, trust and have faith in our own abilities.🙏💕

My doodle of magical fairy.

This information is not to be taken as gospel and it’s not to offend anyone just a basic way for myself to share with others my own experiences. It’s not meant to Offend!!

How fast has life and society changed?
Ok so I feel, I am getting on a bit some 40 plus years ago. when I was a little girl how different life was.
I don’t think this is a large period of time, for the huge amount of change seen in society.
There where more stay at home full-time mothers nurturing their children for longer.
Motherhood and Full-time housewives didn’t seem to be so looked down on.
I am not saying back then every mother stayed home but I know it was more acceptable if you wished to do so.
I’ve witnessed the question from others, So when are you going back to work? This starts when your baby is about 3 months old how sad.
If you don’t return to work society these days seems to judge you as downright odd.
Let’s have respect for mothers!!.
After all is it not one of the most important jobs. To bring up well cared for and balanced people into the next generation? This takes time devotion and lots of love.
I am one of those weird people who’s as you say JUST a mother!
Oh and I home educate as well.
Try explaining that one to some of the public.
Why would you do that?
Why would you choose to spend all your time with your child or children?

Why and why.
A lot of people have told me they go to work for a break to get away from the children and they cannot cope with the school summer holidays and cannot wait for their child to return to school.
Well, why bother to have a child?
I home educate my child. I was so blessed to have him and become a mother.
I also experience his development alongside him daily and do not wish to pass him into a system of schooling which seems to fail a large percentage of children emotionally. Our education system is often talked about in the newspapers and clearly shows it’s failing a huge percentage of children.
I’ve nothing against schooling if your family and kids are happy there, of course, do it. However, don’t criticize my choice because, on the whole, no one gives you criticism for sending your child to school. What on earth would make another human think it’s OK to give you criticism over homeschooling your child.

when it takes time and commitment.

They don’t spend time with the child to develop a relationship or have an understanding of the child’s situation why the child would be better off with one to one learning and cope better.

It’s not possible for all children to do well in the system, it’s one size fits all if your child isn’t that way, in my opinion, it can be very damaging in a lot of ways. There is also no help available for any child with any form of special needs, most schools even suggest these children who don’t fit in the box should be removed and homeschooled because they don’t want them affecting their Ofsted scores.

So a lot of families have no choice but to home school can be tough for those who never thought they would be doing that! They had to give up work and live mainly on one income and pay for all the education learning materials because of course there is no refunding to help Homeschoolers.

Homeschoolers are devoted parents who do this totally out of love for their children, with the hope that 1 to 1 learning, time, love, and life experiences living in the real world will give their child a more rooted rounded development than the very broken system of education today.
So that’s why I home educate in a nutshell.
As a child, I played on my bike down the street most days with the other children.
Today none of the children play out or even speak to one another in passing.
Is technology, computers and TV screen time to blame?.
How sad the lack of play and exercise children seem to get.
Then I start to understand the obesity problems that this generation are facing alongside healthy food being more costly than the junk unnatural foods that many of us have to buy a due to income, It’s immoral.

Fruit and Veg should be cheaper than man-made rubbish.

I swear they are trying to make us all sick
Then community where has that gone? As a girl, I knew all the mums in my street and sometimes they would babysit for my mother so my mum and dad got the odd night out together.
All the kids knew one another and on Sunday a neighbour picked up the kids in the road and took us to Sunday school.
Then, of course, the shops didn’t open on a Sunday.
Retail workers had a day off. Not the 24 hours of convenience spending and spending off today.
Families got a day together how nice!
Well, I will not babble any more as you get the picture I am painting.
Change and change fast.
I don’t believe for the better, in fact, it makes me quite worried and even fearful for the next generation of children.
Then, of course, there are huge problems of a society stuck in debt. The fact we are working longer than the generation before us and for what? To make us physically and mentally sick and become poorer as the years go on? This is something my family is struggling with financially and emotionally and are no longer willing to blindly accept.
Well, we want off this roller coaster ride to remove ourselves as much as we possibly can.
How do you step out the bubble?
Away from the so-called normal ways.
Well, I’ve always questioned everything.
Which I guess has made it harder for me to just accept life and society as it is today.
So, therefore, we are going to try and step outside that bubble as much as possible.

To live our lives the best way that we can with the precious time we have been given. Not to blindly follow the masses because that is seen as the acceptable route. To go with what feel s right for us which naturally seems right at the present time and learn to trust, that with all the ups downs and beautiful moment along life’s way that’s simply how it should be and that’s all one needs.

I am not your average person. Blinkered quietly sailing through this life. Too many questions, ideas, plans and dreams that’s me. I was also named Wendy which means to wonder therefore all my adult life has been filled with wanderlust. In my late twenties and thirties. Some bad and sad circumstances lead me to leave the UK and this became a huge life experience one of the best!! Good often comes out of bad circumstances in the end.

I was Traveling alone to many countries in Europe and Egypt, Morocco,

Greece, mainland Spain and the Balearic Islands. Also Nepal and India many times one of my truly happy places. I always felt very connected there. Now I am about to start my new adventure of leaving south England after 40 something years to maybe find a new abode in Wales or somewhere else? Along with my husband and son. I am passionate and honoured to be able to watch my son grow and develop into a young boy.

I am with him daily due to our home education and our lifestyle.

(sweet scent of a peach Rose 🌹🌹)