I wonder how I got to this state of total unwellness.
This is not a post of self-pity! although I am sure by the time I have written it may sound very sad in places to the reader.
It has been put together with the hope that my journey of Autoimmune diseases, plus hormonal diseases.
Might just show you the reader who may well be in a similar situation you are not alone.
These diseases can often leave us in a situation where we can no longer do the things we once were capable of on a daily basis.
If you like me?
losing the capability to keep going, do daily things, and just be part of society like the people around you is tough.
Your body just cannot do it anymore it’s changed and it cannot keep up plus often pain will not make it possible either.
However, it’s not simple because the mind tells you just to do it.
Go function do the work, the house, friends, and social events.
When the vehicle your body that makes all those actions possible gives up. well, you are no longer the same person or are you?
There is of cause your mind which I believe begins to shout unkind words at you!
(THE DIALOGUE IN THE MIND.)
“Everyone else can function so you should
What’s wrong with me
just do it and get on with it is normal
If I cannot complete all the things needed I am therefore a complete failure to myself, my family, and society.”
So look at the mind’s unkind dialogue with me, and maybe you have experienced a similar hard conversation that your mind has shouted at you.
How and where did that all come from you?
Are you really that unkind to yourself?
Start to unravel it umm well those words you are shouting have been ingrained in you over your lifetime from birth until today.
Our upbringing parents’ wise words ! and society’s input and expectations sadly .when looked at are ridiculous and will do everything to bring poor health and illness to humans in the long run.
Our bodies and minds are not supposed to endure long periods or even years of ongoing stress.
But what is ongoing stress a myraid of everything we face daily not just one event.
from being placed in nursery school at a young age causing separation between child and adult has now been shown to cause long-term stress on the developing child.
Education as a whole teaches that the only aim in life is to push yourself to one goal of qualifications to have proper jobs to gain great wealth.
where only a few get to the top of the ladder. The others were worn and grounded down along the way.
The long hours worked out in society when you finally get that proper job or job.
The financial system where yes there are a few with outstanding amounts of income but for the majority. we work longer hours than the generation before us, the cost of living only raises, and keeping a roof is almost impossible for a lot of the population.
relationship struggles and pressures due to the above are inevitable it’s no surprise the divorce rate. Is higher than the generation before us where only one income was enough to run a household. A man’s salary was enough.
yes, I am a woman but feminism did us no good.
The flip side was a man’s wage was no longer enough.
In fact, if you study income you will see a man is now paid less than the generation before us.
women are needed to also work to top up the household income.
Plus today even 2 incomes are not enough so extra jobs on top of full-time jobs are taken onboard to cover the cost of living.
plus we no longer know how to stop !!
The body and mind need to stop and not have ongoing stress.
We just are not built to do what society and are upbringing have been shouting at us.
I refer you to my Heads dialogue.
In fact now with the insight of wisdom and ill health.
I can tell you that even supposedly healthy humans should not have been placing those expectations upon themselves daily for years.
If they do they will risk not meeting society’s and their own criteria and if they try to keep up they risk becoming truly unwell.
For the unwell human with this dialogue in their mind, it is a ridiculous notion that upbringing and society have fed us over time. which has done you or me no favors.
You have health issues how could you keep going like nothing is affecting you. Nothing is wrong with your system and body. when even a healthy individual would become sick trying to keep up with the mind dialogue and society’s goals and restraints over time.
so if you are unwell and have had a similar mind dialogue to me.
I send you true hugs of total understanding warmth and love.
I tell myself to forget the conditioning words from society or upbringing because that’s how those hard unkind words got inside your head in the first place.
Simply on good days when your body allows you to do a little more than the other days be thankful.
It’s hard not to look at the days you didn’t achieve so much as failed ones but you and I need to remember that’s the conditioning and it will wear you down.
An example in my life could be similar to yours. I don’t achieve making beautiful foods and lovely cakes every day for family and friends something I enjoy doing as a wife and mother.
Then guess what the days that I or you made a good cake once in a while will be more special to you. plus your family will appreciate it more.
Remember you will start to see the beauty in all the small things in this life and acts you have done and achieved. That wisdom you have learned through your journey of health is a very positive outcome as you start to view the whole society and world in a different light.
The way we are bought up, society as a whole, and its expectations of us need to change.
There is about 13 percent or more living with Autoimmune diseases now. steadily going up in numbers each year. Of people with lifelong Autoimmune diseases.
Did you know there are over 100 Autoimmune diseases?
Common ones are Thyroid diseases, Thyroid graves, Thyroid Hasimotos, Polycystic ovarian syndrome, lupus , Crohns disease but a few.
So we need truly to take a bigger look at ourselves and society’s part in this.
To understand we are not robots but humans who need breaks and gaps in life.
That no one can run on stress alone for years without breaking it will happen.
That words hurt! and impact our health so deeply.
I will write another post on the effects of words on humans over time.
We must learn to give support by that I don’t just mean the odd word, but being there for family or friends in times of stress or hardship. If we don’t want our loved ones and society to come crashing down.
So my hope is that you have that support network around you in your life.
Many of us don’t.
This needs to change.
My hope is people will learn how important this is to support and offer only words of strength, kindness, and openness to another,s situation.
Because until you walk in their shoes daily, you have no idea of what they are facing so kind words is truly best at every turn.
I send my love to you take each day as it comes and tomorrow is a new day .!
Always remember that God bless us all.